Did you know that a woman’s breasts contain the same trigger-happy nerves found in the clitoris making breast orgasms the second most common form of orgasm for women?  No wonder nipples reach out for more when kissed, caressed or otherwise stimulated. Yet most men simply ignore these magnificent twin orbs in a rush to head down south to get to where they think is the best possibility for orgasm.

What a shame.

Men don’t seem to understand that a woman’s breasts have a direct hotline to her clitoris and when breast play is done with skill and finesse, it can result in a dazzling orgasm for her. At the very least, breast and nipple stimulation can raise her libido and send her arousal soaring…and yours too!

Just as there is no “one-size-fits-all” bra, there isn’t any one method that will work for every woman all the time. Breast sensitivity, hormonal changes, her personal preferences, etc. will influence your choice of technique. If you are unsure how best to proceed, invite your partner to play the ‘mirror game’ where you sit facing each other in the nude and get her to show you what arouses her by doing it to you first. Experiment with licking, nibbling, pinching, sucking and stroking the neck, chest and nipple area. Gauge her arousal either by watching if her nipples rise, darken and intensify or through the sex sounds she makes. You can also place your hands over hers and ask her to show you how she wants to be pleasured. If neither of these suggestions appeal to you feel free to pick and choose from the following techniques instead.



  • Keep in mind that the more turned on she becomes the more sensation she will be able to endure so start off slow and gentle before introducing rougher, more intense techniques.
  • Consider using a blindfold and/or gently restraining your partner’s hands to heighten her senses and increase her arousal.
  • If her nipples become erect, don’t assume that they are the result of being aroused. Nipples can get hard from unpleasant stimuli such as excessive roughness, abrasion and extreme temperatures so be sure to ask your partner if she likes what you are doing.
  • For best results use a combination of techniques.



  1. Begin by using the feathery touch of your nails or fingertips to stroke the delicate skin of your partner’s torso and under her arms. Slide your fingers down across her stomach, making slow, lazy circles over her belly, midsection and finally up to her breasts. Slide your palms in circular motions around the entire breast area. Press firmly. You can either do one breast at a time or use both hands and do both together. Continue even after her nipples become erect. Go faster, slower, harder. Cup as much of each creamy mound in your hand as possible and move them both around. Knead them. Squeeze them gently then more firmly.
  2. Massage her nipples with or without oil. Press on them. Roll them gently between your thumb and forefinger. Use firmer and firmer pressure.Tweak them. Pull them and hold or pull and release completely in rapid strokes.Take hold of her nipples and shake her breasts with them.
  3. Use one hand to encircle her breast and push it up and out similar to a push-up bra. This pulls the nipple taut. With your other hand, roll, pinch and pull the nipple. Wet your fingers and play with it. Quickly rub your fingers back and forth. Use the pad of your index finger to rotate the nipple in small circles.  Flick your finger or fingernails across each rosy bud.
  4. Try any or all the above techniques while you and your partner are in the shower or bath because having her breasts and nipples lovingly lathered by her mate with either a soft wash cloth or sponge or even just his hands is a real turn on for many women.



  1. Begin with sensual kisses and luscious love bites from her ear down to her breasts. Kiss and lick each breast and nipple. Flick her nipples with your tongue. Gently bite then suckle her nipples then lick and blow on them.
  2. Pucker your lips and use them to make a seal around the nipple. Suck in and then out without breaking the seal. The nipple will feel alternating currents of vacuum and pressure. Use caution if your partner wears nipple jewelry you don’t want it accidentally swallow it.
  3.  Whether you use suction or combine suction with nibbles, licks or tongue strokes, there is really no limit with how you can orally stimulate your partner’s breasts. If you are unsure what she likes, ask her to suck on your tongue or lips to show you how much suction she prefers on her nipples.
  4. Try orally stimulating her breasts when she is lying above you. Her breasts will be more sensitive when they are hanging down because of the increased blood supply to the nipples.



  1. Penis and Breast Play. Some women find it highly arousing when a man caresses their nipples with the tip of an erect penis or by pulling his foreskin up around the nipple. If he pulls apart the opening of his penis, he can sometimes slip the tip of an erect nipple into it for added pleasure. Some women get aroused by having of an erect penis sliding in-between her well-oiled breasts as she squeezes them together.
  2. Toys. There are products on the market now that can apply direction suction and vibration to the breasts and nipples. Vibrators, especially those with ridged or pronged attachments are also very effective. For a bit of kink and to add intensity, you and your partner might consider using a leather flogger or whip. You can locate various breast toys here.
  3. Nipple Clips. Although nipple clips have been around for a long time they should be used with care. Clothes pins and a pair of chopsticks should also be used with caution. Never leave anything on the nipples – numbness is a warning sign – for too long or you risk causing permanent nerve damage.
  4. Hot and Cold Temperatures. Ice or snow on the nipple can be especially arousing especially if you alternate it with drinking something warm before sucking, kissing or blowing on it.
  5. Food Play. Engage in a little erotic food play by dabbing whipped cream, chocolate sauce or honey on her nipples before slowly and seductively licking it off.
  6. Sensuous Materials. Try stroking and caressing your partner’s breasts and nipples with silk, velvet, fur, leather, feathers and even rougher textures like wool, terry cloth or a very soft brush. Use a combination of textures for increased sensation.

♥ Happy Breast Play!♥

11 comments on “How to Give Her A Breast Orgasm

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  2. G-Spot

    For the oral stimulation, point 2. mentions vacuum suction for the nipples. This can also affect more of the breast depending on her firmness, state of arousal, and how attended her breasts are at any give time. I dated a girl with natural large C/small D-cup breasts that I could hardly keep away from. While perky and fairly firm, when I gave them allot of attention her breasts would soften and become more flexible. With her breasts warmed up from much holding, soft rubbing, kissing, licking, sucking, and play biting, and her in a hyper aroused state, several times I was able to stretch my mouth open enough and suck hard enough to slowly pull most of her breast tissue into my mouth. It was work for my jaw muscles and well worth it. The feeling of having nearly an entire boob in my mouth is an intimate and surreal feeling for me, as though I had total control of her sexually just by pleasuring her breasts (is that how a woman feels giving a blowjob?). All of this was very arousing to us both and caused moans of enjoyment from me that only increased her sensations as vibrations spread through her breast causing her to moan her new pleasure as well. Soon we would be doing less controlled sexual acts as a result, such as me furiously sliding my excited penis between her breasts while either her squeezed them together and caressed them, and more! Boobs are awesome if you give them a lot of sensual attention.

  3. The Passionate Wife Post author

    Excellent points (pun intended) about nipple suction G-spot! Sounds like you are well-versed in breast play; your girl is very lucky indeed. Thanks so much for the input and I agree, boobs are awesome! :D

  4. G-Spot

    She was my girlfriend, I am single now and missing her boobs today. It was not that I was well versed in breast play, save from some experience and pornography (I suppose lesbian porn is helpful for breasts play). I was good at it the first time I attacked a woman’s breasts. Learning about sex the way this site and others allow from a knowledge base is important. But that alone can lead to a mechanical, passion poor sex life. Unfortunately, many people, both knowledgeable and largely ignorant about sex suffer from this malediction (there is a pun for you, but I am not sure what it means, haha). Learn all you can and continue to learn more as life and love progress, but in any given sexual encounter as arousal increases, let your instincts, longings, even fetishes take over for fun, spontaneous, and wilder sex. Sexual knowledge should feed into passion, informing it but not controlling, suppressing, or even directing. Technique is secondary to lust and desire. Let those lead and providing your partner with great pleasure and even enticing it from her/him becomes very natural and fulfilling.

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  7. Ryan

    There is one disappointing omission from the list of sensuous materials: Latex, it’s soft and smooth and stretchy and feels oh so good when it touches the body whether stretched tight or loose and flowy. Try the ice trick while she’s wearing a tight latex dress or nightgown or whatever and you will send her to the moon.

    1. Tracey Post author

      Thank you very much for bringing this to our attention Ryan; it is much appreciated. I should have noted that there are various fabrics (latex, silk, satin) that can certainly add to her “breast play” pleasure. :D

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