Erotic triggers are those sensual experiences, memories, fantasies or props which connects you to your sexual self and catapults you into delicious and wild abandon. They can make you feel sexy at will, hasten your desire and admiration for your partner’s body and unleash the deeper, wilder, more daring parts of yourself. They can push your sexual boundaries and free you from the grip of inhibitions, apprehensions and anxieties. Erotic triggers help you to tap into your passionate mind and set it free.
Erotic Trigger #13:
Is there anything more intimate and sensuous than having your lover massage your scalp and stroke your hair? Whether hurriedly bundled up or elaborately groomed, our hair is closely connected with our sense of self; disguised in plain sight as the most visible, yet vulnerable part of our sexual psyches.The emotional connection we have with our hair is evident in the relationships we have with those we allow to touch it.
Your partner will absolutely love some heavenly hair-play. A scalp massage feels incredible due to the many nerve endings located throughout and the more nerve endings the greater the potential for pleasure. Start by suggesting your lover lie back with their head on your lap. Place a towel down first to protect your clothes from oils. You can also stand behind their chair with their head relaxing back. With just a drop or two of scented massage oil on your hands, begin by gently stroking from the top of their forehead back along their scalp to the base of the neck. Repeat this a few times. Now place your fingertips at the top of their forehead again, but using a gentle pressure start massaging in dime-sized circles. Slowly move over the scalp to the base of their neck, pausing while you circle your fingertips for a bit before moving your hands back a couple of inches to restart circling again. For an added treat, occasionally sift your fingers through your partner’s man like a comb, grip a mass of hair near the roots and gently tug. Gently pulling on your lover’s hair will stimulate the nerve endings underneath the skin’s surface where your typical scalp massage cannot reach.
Let your ministrations flow from the scalp to the eyes and temples; an area that typically holds a lot of tension. While simply massaging these areas with your fingertips can certainly ease your partner’s angst, you can also eliminate stress here more effectively by pressing your fingertips on both sides and gently jiggling your hands back and forth, moving the skin with your fingertips yet keeping your actions mild enough that the head remains stationary. Unlike a stroking motion, this technique sends reverberations into the skull resulting in a deeper state of relaxation.
When your partner is putty in your hands, lead them to the bathroom, turn on the water and finish your loving attention with a thorough hair and body wash.
A Sensuous Hair Washing
For a simple sensual pleasure guaranteed to leave your partner feeling pampered, cherished and loved; wash their hair. You can carry out this wonderfully intimate act while they are in the shower or bath.
If you are washing their hair in the shower, guide your partner under the spray. Gently hold their head by the sides as you move them from side to side until their hair is completely wet; for a more intimate and subtle movement, place your hands on their cheeks instead. If you are washing their hair in the bath simply use a cup to soak their hair while they lean back. When their hair is sufficiently soaked, grab the shampoo and pour as much you think you will need into the palm of hand. Be creative and glide the shampoo around and around their hair. Work the lather into their scalp and move on to the ends if their hair is longer. Alternate between using your fingernails and fingertips to lightly scratch and massage their scalp. Expect to hear them moan or purr in pleasure. After a few minutes, thoroughly rinse the shampoo by softly running your fingers through their hair. When hair is free of shampoo, add conditioner if they use it and use either your fingers or a comb to work the conditioner into their hair. While you wait for the conditioner to set, affectionately caress or kiss their face, neck and shoulders. After thoroughly rinsing the conditioner; help them out of the bath or shower and into a warm, waiting towel. Use an extra towel to carefully soak up the excess water from their hair before brushing it.
A Luxurious Hair Brushing
If you have never experienced it, it feels truly fabulous to have someone brush your hair; especially a loving partner. Whether their hair is wet from a hair washing or dry, brush your lover’s hair with careful strokes starting from the forehead and working backwards. Brush their hair rhythmically with long, sweeping, gentle strokes while you stand behind them. Hair brushing is one of those simple erotic pleasures you can treat your partner with on those evenings when you do not have time for a full scalp massage and hair washing. By simply running a brush through your partner’s luscious locks; you’ll let them know just how loved and cherished they are.
Grooming each other may seem like a trivial indulgence but a University of New Hampshire study indicated that couples who regularly played with each other’s hair, exchanged massages and soaped up together had higher levels of trust, satisfaction and stronger bonding.♥
Have you ever titillated your partner’s tresses or had it done to you?