The Art of Mutual Masturbation


There is something deliciously erotic and forbidden about watching your partner indulge in self-pleasuring. Couples who engage in this most private of sex acts while together will not only satisfy any voyeuristic and exhibitionist tendencies they may have; they can build greater intimacy and trust between them as well.

When we indulge in self-pleasuring, we let go of our sexual inhibitions and simply focus on achieving erotic bliss. By allowing our partner to openly witness our sensual self-touch; we give them the perfect opportunity to learn precisely where to touch, how to touch and what kinds of touch feel most sexually satisfying to us – all without having to say a word.

To fully reap the erotic benefits of mutual self-touch, both partners will first need to be relaxed enough masturbating on their own before doing it in front of an audience. Only when you have both spent time getting to know your own bodies through self-pleasuring, should you move on to mutual masturbation.

From Solo Sex to Mutual Masturbation in 4 Easy Steps

For those individuals who may feel a bit daunted or embarrassed not only admitting to their partner that they masturbate but actually showing them what they do, take heart.  A whopping 99 per cent of people would love to know how a partner touches themselves sexually. Here is how you can go from solo sex to mutual masturbation in 4 easy steps.

1. Let them in on a sexy little secret

Masturbate when your partner is home. Simply whisper into their ear that you are going to take some private time, sharing a few erotic details so your partner will be able to visualize your plans. This thrilling secret will no doubt rev up your lover’s libido too.

2. Introduce a little solo act during foreplay

If you are a little self-conscious about touching yourself in front of your partner, choose a time or place when you can dim the lights slightly and add some relaxing, mood music.

Remember that the objective is not necessarily to bring yourself to orgasm but rather to get comfortable arousing yourself through self-touch in front of your partner.

When things are really heating up during foreplay, whisper to your partner that you would like to show them how you touch yourself. Relax in their arms, lie back and slowly start your solo play.

During foreplay, seductively suggest to your partner that you would like them to show you how they prefer to be touched by touching themselves. If they are a little hesitant, tell them they can use your hands to start.

Without mentioning a word, start self-pleasuring during foreplay. Your partner will soon catch on to the fact that you are stroking yourself. Touch yourself lightly and sensually. Let them know that it would really turn you on if they watch.  After a few minutes, urge your partner to touch themselves by letting them know what a turn on it would be for you to watch them.

Consider adding a vibrator to your foreplay and let your partner watch you pleasure yourself with it.

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  10 comments for “The Art of Mutual Masturbation

  1. guiness73
    6 October, 2014 at 11:12 pm

    Re-read this article and just wanted to add one of my favorite experiences with this was laying my head on her leg with my face close to her hand and clit while I enjoyed myself. So bonding, so powerfully stimulating, and just crazy wonderful! Not sure why this entices me as much as it does but just wanted to say how much I appreciate what you have written about this incredible facet of masturbation!

  2. J Rodney Roberts
    1 November, 2014 at 12:30 pm

    Wife and I made one attempt some time ago. With your article and comments of others, we will make this wonderful activity part of our intamacy. Thank you!

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