One of the most frequent sexual complaints of married and long-term couples is boredom. Routine, predictable sex often occurs because couples stop their sexual exploration and experimentation. Many also lose their sense of adventure and humour when it comes to sexual play – especially when the sex gets a little tricky –preferring to stick with the tried and true. Adding variety to your sex life need not be complicated or scary; just consider it a really fun way to try different types of sexual stimulation to help spark a diminishing libido. And remember that sex is much-needed adult play time so approach it with an air of curiosity, excitement and joy.
Ready to add some variety to your sex life but not sure where to start? I have provided a list of 75 things people can do sexually with their partner. Consider this more of a “Spicy Activities List” encouraging you to try various items more than once in order to get their full benefit instead of a “Bucket List” with its try-once-and-move-on approach.
You can print off two copies of this list and give one to your partner. Each of you can then spend some time privately to complete your list and then compare your responses with each other. It is a great way to talk about the things you each want to try as well as where your interests differ. Honesty and an absence of judgment will go a long way in this exercise.
You could also turn this exercise into a game by printing off this list and placing it in your partner’s lunch bag or sending it to them via phone or computer making them guess which activities are a “Yes” for you. It is also a great way to arouse and titillate your partner.