While busy work schedules, child-rearing and household chores may conspire to keep us out of the bedroom; it seems our libido cannot withstand the neglect for too long. Without regular sexual activity, we will ultimately lose our sex drive, our sexual chemistry potential, as well as our ability to comfortably connect with our lover. And the longer we abstain from sex – either solo or partnered – the lower our hormone and sperm or egg production. Without regular sex, not only will our relationship suffer but our physical health will too.
“Use it or lose it” is not just a cliché where our libido is concerned.
Despite the importance of sustaining our sex drive, it is unlikely that our hectic lives will accommodate spontaneous, marathon lovemaking on a daily basis; no matter how much we may want to. Fortunately, there is a suitable alternative for keeping our libido revving until we can indulge in longer sexual encounters – maintenance sex.
Its rather uninspiring name notwithstanding, maintenance sex can be every bit as passionate and pleasurable as extended sexual play. Whether it is a fast and furious quickie in the shower before heading into work, a mid-afternoon tryst before the kids return home from school or a 20-minute romp scheduled the same time every week, maintenance sex need not be boring or predictable. The key is a willingness to seize each opportunity as it…ummm…arises.