Mapping Her Clitoris

The clitoris has only one function. One singular, delicious purpose. To provide a woman with pleasure.  This marvel of human evolution may look tiny but it actually extends about two centimeters inside a woman’s body (see diagram below).  And although made with the same tissue as a penis, it contains twice the amount – about 8,000 – sensory nerve fibers. 

Located at the top of the vulva just above the urethra and the vaginal opening is the most sensitive part of the clitoris – the glans. Despite being highly responsive to various forms of stimulation, it can still be quite temperamental.  Yet the man who takes the time to map this little button of female joy will soon discover how to truly arouse her and send her spiraling toward orgasmic bliss.


Tick Tock – The Clitoral Clock

For this sensual expedition, you will need the following:

A private location containing a bed, chaise or upholstered chair

Soft music and lighting, scented candles or incense to help set the mood (optional)

At least 15 minutes of uninterrupted adult play time

A water-based lubricant (or if you prefer, coconut oil is always a good, safe choice)


The Technique

Once clothing is removed, she should be placed in a position where both of you will be comfortable for the duration of this exercise. It should be a position where she can easily open her legs to you and you can view and caress her velvety mound without effort.  Make sure your nails are filed or cut short and hands are clean and warm.

Begin by slowly kissing and stroking her lower belly, hips and inner thighs. When you feel your partner become relaxed, add ample lubricant to both your fingers and her vulva, paying particular attention to the clitoral area. Spend a few minutes softly petting and rubbing your partner’s clitoris and vagina.

Keep in mind that not all women find direct stimulation of the glans pleasurable, so it is best to apply your touch to the clitoral hood – that fold of skin that protects and covers the delicate bud underneath.   

Imagining that her clitoris is a clock – with twelve o’clock at the top nearest her belly – and using one or two well-lubricated fingers, begin to circle her clitoris in a clockwise direction.

Once you have slowly repeated this circular motion several times, begin asking your partner to comment as you stimulate each of the twelve clock positions. Ask her to describe the intensity of sensations for each “time” position – one o’clock, two o’clock, three o’clock, etc. – using a scale of one to five. For example, one means little sensation or uncomfortable, two means slightly pleasurable, three means pleasurable, four means very pleasurable with five reserved for the most pleasurable sensations; the one that is likely to trigger an orgasm if further stimulation occurs.

Now according to some sex experts, the upper left quadrant of the clitoris is the most sensitive spot. However, I have found that a different clock position is far more satisfying for me personally. It may be the same for your partner too. So do not rely solely on what the sexperts have to say. Of course with twelve potential hotspots and four possible quadrants for pleasure available, it is easy to understand why this exercise is so beneficial. It may also explain why most women automatically use a circling motion when stimulating their clitoris during solo sex.

Continue the slow circular clockwise motion using different strokes and pressure as you continue getting her feedback. Remember that her little bud is highly sensitive so stimulation should be done with tenderness in the beginning. Once she becomes aroused, she may want you to apply stronger, more intense pressure.  

Try moving your fingers in tighter and tighter circles around her clitoris leaning the palm of your hand on her vaginal area. Or consider alternating between manual and oral stimulation. Use your tongue to gently flick and swirl in a clockwise motion. Use your mouth to kiss and nibble in the same circular motion while you slide your fingers inside her vagina and rub her G-spot. Make sure she continues to communicate exactly how everything feels and which kind of stimulation she likes best.

Continue your manual and oral ministrations until she achieves orgasm. This can take anywhere from five to thirty minutes, depending on the woman. It is likely that as she becomes increasingly aroused, her clitoris will become engorged, erect and more visible. For many women, her little joy button will actually rise up to where it may look like its disappearing back into the folds of skin above and around it just prior to orgasm.

If you are especially observant to these changes, you can then prolong her pleasure and increase the intensity of her orgasm simply by changing how and where along the “clock” you stimulate her clitoris.

As an added bonus to this sensual expedition around her luscious little bud, you will now have a map to her most pleasurable hotspots which you can access with ease and certainty in the future. ♥

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  10 comments for “Mapping Her Clitoris

  1. RB
    24 October, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    A guide for explorers charting new waters! 😀

    Thank you for yet another informative article!

  2. Mark M
    30 October, 2015 at 1:45 am

    My wife may have a clit, but it doesn’t look like this. There is nothing that comes out, no nub, no bump, nothing. I am guessing it never comes out of the hood. Years ago I asked her to ask her OBGYN about it and she says “she’s normal”. Of course this may be why she (almost) never has orgasms. She does enjoy cuddling and the other aspects of sex, but I’ve only witnessed a handful of orgasms in over 35 years together. Oh well.

    • Mr Romance
      30 October, 2015 at 11:14 am

      The figure above is an anatomical diagram of the vulva, representing the whole clitoris including its “root” inside a lady’s body.

      The vulva comes in all different shapes and sizes, but are similar in anatomy. The clitoris can be small and hiding beneath its hood or peeking out, all are normal, and all can provide the lady with much pleasurable sensations.

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      Please do not pressure your lady about it, as long as she is satisfied with your love life there is nothing to worry about, of course you can seek more pleasure, but be careful not to make her feel conscious about it.

      Not all ladies can achieve an orgasm, sometimes the reason can be psychological, or self image related, feeling pressured makes it seem more like a performance than enjoyment. If the reason is physical/hormonal, her doctor can help her. If it is related to cultural reasons, upbringing, or religion, you will need to talk about it, openly, if she is willing to of course.

      You can help her, by setting up a good mode, and make her feel more relaxed, and comfortable, but it is she who has an orgasm.
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      You can encourage her to engage in solo sex, to get to know her own body more, and be more confident and relaxed about it.

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      There possibilities are endless when it comes to intimate pleasures! 😀

    • 7 November, 2015 at 10:57 am

      Hey Mark,

      In additional to Mr Romance’s informative response…you may find the following article helpful.

      Clitoral Size, Distance From Vagina May Cause Women To Have Orgasm Troubles

  3. Mr Romance
    2 November, 2015 at 10:16 pm

    Excellent article!

    I find it very important to learn such a map. Since a lady’s preferred way of stimulation may differ from time to time.

    In my opinion, this helps in learning her responses, how she reacts to stimulation, and get closer to one another.

    • 7 November, 2015 at 10:45 am

      Hiya Mr Romance 🙂

      Thank you very much! Great points. It is also worth mentioning that even without partner participation, a woman can discover her clitoral hotspots by completing this exercise on her own. Once she knows which areas are most pleasurable, she can share that information with her lover. 🙂

  4. Jimmy
    9 November, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    Hi Tracey!

    Thank you so much for your informative articles. I’m sure you’re helping many men and women. 🙂 I found this article on the clitoris very informative!

    • 15 November, 2015 at 6:40 am

      Hiya Jimmy! 😀

      You are very welcome and I am so delighted to hear you found the article informative. Thank you so much for the kind words! 🙂

  5. Jim Christian
    11 December, 2015 at 4:38 am

    For Tracey and all who read,

    My gal has a very prominent clitoris compared to some women, I can always feel it and get to it and she can orgasm with it in fine fashion, but it IS heavily hooded. A couple of gals in my past had VERY prominent clitoris’ and that is FUN, but most quite hidden. With my gal, only a nub would show and while she very sensitive and it always has done the job, so to speak, most of her clitoris is/was hidden. For all I know some doc somewhere has a “Discover your clitoris!” plastic surgery procedure for the hooded-of-clit”! Ha! I digress to humor, sorry. But my gal’s isn’t hidden anymore.

    Recently, when performing exploratory oral kissing and tonguing activities my gal, when working from the outside in, outer labia, licking and opening those petals, then the inner labia,each part opens for you somehow and there you are at the hood, no fingers necessary if you’re patient. Now, I don’t know why I did this , but when I had her to that point and plenty slippery I placed my palm, the heel of the palm of my hand on the fleshy, public-hair region just below her pubic bone, at bottom of her pubic hair and just above her clitoral hood. I pressed into her pubic bones and rolled UP with a little heavy pressure on just the heel, it’s fleshy , it rolls up over the pubic bone. I just thought she would puff out a little for better licks, I guess. For my love however, it pulled UP and back on the clitoral hood and pop! Out came the weasel! That move upward of the fleshy region above the clit toward the navel slid the hood back and it didn’t hurt that her clit was hard, slick and the top already peeking out like usual. But with the hood sliding up, and her clit popping out, a half inch or a little more is now exposed. Best move I ever made, move of a lifetime! It was worthy of the Nobel Prize of Sex, hold the applause, just throw money! Ever have a move like that? You may be about to.

    So, back to the clitoris. Why oh, WHY doesn’t the damned girl pop out of the hood all by herself? All I can figure is the clitoris on the inside of the hood is actually dry and doesn’t lubricate. Maybe (I’m no OB/GYN, someone help me here, I’m drowning) there are no mucous/lubricating glands INSIDE the hood, and so the clitoris stays “in the garage” with just the top poking out (if you’re lucky). So, it must be held back within the hood and without this move with the palm, this help, it just never gets a chance to pop out like that. Maybe that hood is like a foreskin and it needs to be pulled back. But exposed, it’s really sensitive, so I know why there is a hood, a woman wouldn’t want her clitoris protruding while dressed, dry contact with underwear might hurt. Now, if you can get this to happen with your gal, you have a clitoris that is longer, it is thin, hard and best of all, exposed so you can lick, tongue-tap and pull it between your lips for a serious lengthwise tongue-lashing. She’ll let you know what is too vigorous as you go along. If you make this work, you are in for some serious return love from your wife. And of course, with mine, nothing will do now when we make love, but first to “bring the girl out of the garage!”.

    Fellas, ladies, Tracey, whomever, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to write an article, but with I empathize with some of the notes above of difficulties fellas and ladies have (and what been a scene of confusion) with that lovable, but difficult clitoris. It is a difficult thing to describe, a woman’s southern region is quite complicated but I hereby happily and joyfully share this move with you folks. I feel like Orville Wright and I just discovered flight! If your wife is built so that this works, you are in for a miraculous surprise.

    Happy Days, and Merry Christmas to one and all!

    • 11 December, 2015 at 6:59 pm

      Hello James 😀

      Thank you so much for this wonderfully entertaining and insightful response and please no apologies are necessary. Your “discovery” will surely assist many couples.

      Now regarding your inquiry…the clitoral hood is very much like the foreskin of the penis in that it protects and covers the sensitive glans. And like the foreskin, the clitoral hood actually contains muccocutaneous and erogenous tissues…so in essence, it does lubricate when sufficiently stimulated.

      Therefore, you are correct in assuming that like foreskin, the clitoral hood needs to be pulled back to expose the glans. However, because of its sensitivity, many women find direct stimulation of the clitoris to be uncomfortable and even painful. It is best to proceed with tenderness at first.

      Thank you again for such a great post. I am sure it will be helpful to many! 😀

      Wishing you many happy days and a Merry Christmas to you and yours! 😀

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